“Dealing With Awkward Moments While Dating” by Peeksi.com. It may seem as if your hands have disappeared when your dinner falls in your lap or your feet have vanished when you trip into your date’s arms, but there are ways to prepare for the inevitable blunder.
Dealing With Awkward Moments While Dating
Whether it’s a first date or your fifth, there is a mixture of excitement, elation, and nervous energy during the beginning phase of a new relationship. This cocktail of emotions makes conditions ripe for the occasional “slip” of awkwardness. Despite the fact that it is commonplace to suffer from embarrassment in the early stages of a relationship, those awkward moments can be painful, according to Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts. Being mentally and emotionally prepared to face these moments can help to manage the sudden hiccups with grace, humor, and the least amount of pain. Preparation will also help you to avoid any long-lasting humiliation that might otherwise harm this budding romance.
Keep Checking Until the Check: The Appearance Blunder
The hours and minutes leading up to time spent together usually entails repeatedly examining your choice of outfit and whether your breath is the right amount of minty fresh. These continual, periodic mirror checks assure you that there are no glaring imperfections in your appearance, such as cow-licks, nasal passage escapees, or wardrobe malfunctions worthy of celebrity paparazzi snapshots. Everything is great; you are ready to meet up. Happiness and perfection abounds right through the end of your date. You say goodnight and head it passing a mirror along the way in to change into your comfy clothes, when lo and behold…there’s parsley stuck in between your teeth! To bypass this catastrophe and not spend countless hours wondering if your date noticed the greens taking root in your gumline, take a restroom break during your date when the opportunity presents itself. Remind yourself to do a “once over” on your appearance. That way, you can smile widely knowing you are just as presentable as you were when the outing began.
“Did You Fall In?!”: The Stink Bomb Blunder
An issue with heading to the bathroom for a check is that you might end up staying too long. Or another, much more devastating reason behind an unusually long bathroom break is that your tummy doesn’t enjoy the spicy Moroccan 3-hour feast that you and your lovely date decided upon for a fancy meal choice. How do you explain taking a bathroom break that leaves your date alone for ten minutes or longer? Lying is not pleasing, but the other option is to divulge the extent of your upset stomach. Right…not an option. So, here are few suggestions to store in your memory bank for later use: there was a line for the restroom and you were obliged to wait; all but one restroom facility was inoperable and the sole stall was not immediately available; you ran into a friend on the way to the restroom; or you dropped your keys along the way and had to retrace your steps. A romantic twist on how to handle this calamity is to spare a few more minutes and ask a staff member to bring over a special dessert. This way, it appears you’ve been crafting this surprise in your absence. Remember to keep your mental file folder filled with excuses ready to be utilized when “The Stink Bomb Blunder” rears its malodorous head.
You might feel like a deer caught in the headlights, helplessly watching the drama unfold as your ex begins to approach you and your date with an outburst of, “oh my gosh…funny seeing you here!” Being prepared is your best defense to avoid, “The Ex Blunder.”
Up Next: The Ex Blunder
There is no more awkward of a moment when an ex suddenly appears out of thin air while you are having a day out with your love. Some ex’s are polite and ignore you, while purposefully avoiding eye contact. Some ex’s continue walking by yet wave noticeably, while uttering a quick “hello.” Then, there are the ones that feel the need to drag you into a drawn-out conversation going so far as to mention how you two were once a couple. Your best bet is to be prepared for this rare occurrence for it has the potential to cause a major waterloo for your burgeoning amour. Quickly head off a “meet and greet” by changing directions and pretending you do not see your ex. If, by chance, your ex catches you off-guard and walks up before you can get away, lead the exchange by swiftly asking about the health of the ex’s family pet. Prior to the finish of your ex’s response after the bewildered stare, interrupt the yakking by saying that you have to get going. Then, as you walk away, warmly and tightly hold onto to your sweetheart in order to lay the groundwork that you were not reluctant to display affection in front of your ex. If questions arise after the encounter, use your judgment on how to phrase it. Just make sure not to get defensive, because meeting an ex is a situation that brings up emotions of insecurity and endless questions about your past relationship…with some attitude mixed in. Try to keep the details to a minimum and do not glorify the past relationship with a detailed recollection of how it played out. Once you’ve handled this the wrong way, you can’t rewind. Choose your words very carefully. The ex run-in is quite possibly the number one awkward predicament that you must be adequately primed to handle, as the consequences of botching it will be disastrous.
“I Have that Same Pair of Shoes!”
Moments when you feel silly, embarrassed, humiliated, or downright ashamed will pop up in every relationship. The trick is to remind yourself that the pair of you will experience these uncomfortable moments. Carrying this knowledge should make you feel less apprehensive about the impending juncture. When the situation arises where you must explain a blunder, be careful not to be brutal with the truth. You love and care for this person, so do not go into detail about how you deeply loved your ex before the break or how you nearly didn’t make it to the restroom without “sharding.” It’s better to recognize when the rose-colored version of the truth will suffice, so use tact when formulating the explanation in order to sidestep hurt feelings or humiliation. And, above all, remember to be kind and understanding when your special someone has an awkward moment, seeing how one day you may be in those very same shoes.
So Many Others
There are countless ways you can find yourself on the Awkward Autobahn in a relationship. Soon to come will be “Awkward Moments Part II” that will cover other impasses, such as handling your first tiff, the uncomfortable silence, and the ever-attractive plumber’s crack. Peeksi.com is surely a new way to date, but it is also a way to turn that magnificent love at first sight moment into a long-term romance with advice on how to navigate the bumps in the road.
Best wishes on your journey with your sweetheart,
K.D., Founder of Peeksi.com